Normally unflappable, Klebolds mother was disgusted by her sons blood-sucking treasures; Dylan loved it, the fun of grossing out Mom. Edit a memorial you manage or suggest changes to the memorial manager. 'Because you think, "how can I possibly feel happy when this terrible thing has happened? Real-time updates and all local stories you want right in the palm of your hand. 'Not only killed and hurt people, but that they would say awful racist things and sadistic things and I just shut that out of my mind. Childhood's End: Three days before the shootings, Dylan Klebold attended his high school prom. He said Klebold's remains are to be cremated and that funeral arrangements for Harris are still being worked out. ", "Our sadness and grief over his death and this tragedy are indescribable," the statement said, and the Klebolds again apologized "to all those who have also suffered a loss of their loved one, and we continue to pray for the recovery of those who were injured. When she was a child, this mixed religious household confused her, and she grappled with her relationship to God and to heaven and hell. Im Jewish., Similarly, Susan Klebolds cousin, Skip Yassenoff, indicated to the Denver Post last week that Dylan Klebolds act must have been very difficult for [Susan], for any average American parent but particularly for someone brought up Jewish.. She told me she remembered Foster suffering a backlash after saying Kaddish for her son, but Foster doesnt remember that. ", Marxhausen said the Klebolds have remained in seclusion because they fear "all the anger and scapegoating and blame-pointing.". Tombstonesare left unmarkedby the names inextricably linked to violence. There's where you screwed up!' Copyright 2023 The Forward Association, Inc. All rights reserved. There is a problem with your email/password. Please use Chrome, Safari, Firefox, or Edge to view this site. Every Memorial Website celebrates the legacy of a life. He tells her he feels angry and doesnt know if he can control that anger, and she brushes off his reaction as normal adolescent behavior. The work is like cataloging hell, as New York magazine put it. To view a photo in more detail or edit captions for photos you added, click the photo to open the photo viewer. Dylan was in an open coffin, with beanie babies lining his head (this helped to cover trauma caused by the gunshot wound). After Columbine, local evangelicalswho said the shootings were the devil's work and who used the tragedy as an opportunity to bring people to Jesusinfuriated him. It took a week to track downa cemetery that would agree to be the final resting place for the terrorists. Rather than bury theirDylansremains, the Klebolds had him cremated a grave that doesnt exist cant offend. Adam Lanza killed 26 people when he open fired in Sandy Hook Elementary School in 2012. Remove advertising from a memorial by sponsoring it for just $5. Sue Klebold broke down in tears as she remembered the funeral of her son Dylan. Susan Klebold, former director of disability services at Arapahoe Community College, also works as assistant director of Access to Employment Projects for the Colorado Community College and Occupational Education System in Denver. After Columbine, local evangelicalswho said the shootings were the devils work and who used the tragedy as an opportunity to bring people to Jesusinfuriated him. Ten years later, these two men of Godradically different in personality and theological approachare still struggling to deal with the damage done to them by two boys bent on murder and mayhem. And then there are the remains of the worst killers in recent memory: the hijackers behind the Sept. 11, 2001, attacks. Search above to list available cemeteries. Nobel: Bob Dylan or Philip Roth? 'Then you start to feel guilty, because as soon as you begin to feel happy, you begin to hate yourself. "I turned it off. Your account has been locked for 30 minutes due to too many failed sign in attempts. Dylan Bennet Klebold was born on September 11, 1981, in Lakewood, Colorado, to Thomas and Sue Klebold. Sunday attendance has declined from 2,000 in 1999 to about 1,100 today. Which leaves the Klebold and Harris parents: What insights might they have to offer this traumatized community? Birth date: 11 September, 1981, Friday. U.S., Cemetery and Funeral Home Collection, 1847-Current. He was too late, however, to be useful as a mediator. Attention: Death verified by Social security index. While every other mother in Littleton was praying that her child was safe, SusanKleboldtold author Andrew Solomon for his book Far From the Tree. I had to pray that mine would die before he hurt anyone else.. . A Seemingly Typical Teenager: A photo of Dylan Klebold from the book A Mothers Reckoning, by Susan Klebold. In 2003, Kirsten relinquished his pulpit, though he remains the senior pastor at West Bowles. Klebold says that she used to believe God was watching over her family. ', Dylan Klebold was one of the two teenagers behind the Columbine High School Massacre in 1999, one of the deadliest school shootings in history, Sue Klebolds son Dylan Klebold was one of the two teenagers behind the Columbine High School Massacre in 1999. He wrestles with those memories to this day. In 1999, however, Columbine shooters Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold became the nation's first poster boys for the phenomenon and the first to be widely misunderstood. After the shootings, Klebold sought solace from the now retired rabbi Steven Foster at Temple Emanuel, in Denver. George Kirsten was in Israel on the day of the shootings; immediately, he turned around to come home. In a six-week investigation by Time magazine after the shooting, reporters Nancy Gibbs and Timothy Roche obtained what were later called The Basement Tapes. They were shot in Harriss basement and showed footage of the two boys on several occasions, cradling weapons and spewing racial slurs against Jews, Latinos, African Americans and others. Christ always goes where its darkest. Review. Sorry! But it made the killers anti-heroes. 'For the first time I got it,' Sue said. Resend Activation Email. His is one of severalinfamous names thatcant be found in cemeteries, either because families have workedto hide them or becausethere is nothing to marktheirfinal resting place: Adam Lanza, who killed 26 people, including 20 first-graders, in the attack on Sandy Hook Elementary in Newtown, Conn., in 2012; Seung-Hui Cho, who killed 32 people at Virginia Tech;Timothy McVeigh, the Oklahoma City bomber who was executed in 2001, are all hidden. Learn more about merges. But I never thought it would hurt that much. After his mother retrieved him and drove him home, she stopped him as he ran upstairs, and then sat him down on the steps. The West Bowles congregation filled the Bernall's living room the week after April 20, praying and crying and praying some more. 17:21 09 Jul 2021, updated 00:59 10 Jul 2021. For yearsafterward, forensics experts have toiled in the wreckage of the World Trade Center, the Pentagon and the field in Pennsylvania, hoping to salvage and identify the remains of those killed. ", Join half a million readers enjoying Newsweek's free newsletters, Everyone Practices Cancel Culture | Opinion, Deplatforming Free Speech is Dangerous | Opinion. 'I decided to keep my name and stop hiding eventually and just acknowledge who I was,' she said. 'For not being someone he could come to and talk to, for not knowing how to listen properly to him, that's what I would wish from him. We will review the memorials and decide if they should be merged. Marxhausen probably speaks for both men when he says the toll Columbine has taken on his life is incalculable. Note: Do you have a family photo of Dylan B Klebold? Britta Lokting is the Forwards culture fellow. The expression on Dylan's face was unfamiliar, which Byron later confessed made it easier for him. Are you sure that you want to report this flower to administrators as offensive or abusive? cemeteries found in will be saved to your photo volunteer list. Dylan Klebold helped perpetrate one of the bloodiest school shootings in history, indelibly etching the name Columbine into our collective memories. He had survived a helicopter crash in Vietnam; two months later he had watched as fellow crew members aboard the USS Enterprise burned alive. Cassie Bernall, a Columbine junior, had been shot in cold blood as she crouched under a library table, and word was that in her final seconds she answered her murderer's question and affirmed her belief in God. But he didn't feel like he fit in at Columbine High School in Colorado. There are no volunteers for this cemetery. Milton and his wife, Charlotte, who was not Jewish, raised their daughter Susan Dylan Klebolds mother as a Jew. "Cassie Bernall deserved to have a book written about her, but if there was reason to believe that it wasn't truthful, then it's a disservice to her memory and to the community. But, he added, Im dealing with logistics. Below you will find photos of the victims's funerals and gravesites. This flower has been reported and will not be visible while under review. At the same time, the father must have believed that his sons future was still bright. And why didn't they know more? This memorial website was created in memory of Dylan B Klebold, 17, born on September 11, 1981 and passed away on April 20, 1999. Whether Dylan Klebold was on equal footing with Harris or simply a follower in openly admiring Hitler and white supremacy is also still unclear. April 20, 2019. In the days after Dylan Klebold along with Eric Harris shot and killed 12 students and one teacher and then himself at Columbine High School on April 20, 1999, his mother, Sue Klebold, remembered a kind of religious warfare in the community of Littleton, Colorado. Each funeral was special in its own way, just like the person who was buried. 'I saw it was planned, I saw video tapes they had made, I saw Dylan in a way I had never seen him before, they were talking about what they were going to do, it showed him with weapons. Is Bob Dylans Judaism blowin in the wind? Recalling the day her son was buried, Ms Klebold said he was laid to rest in a cardboard box, and broke down into floods of tears as she said she wanted to 'crawl in that casket with him' and was desperate to understand what drove her son to commit such an atrocious crime. She reportedly told Grantz: Its so hard to see my son portrayed as a monster when that isnt the boy I know. They are buried at a California cemetery far from their home because a closer graveyard would not take the bodies. We take an oath to do this, Stefan told WBUR. Later that afternoon the mother discovered that her son was dead, and remembered 'groaning' with emotional pain out loud while watching the news. Columbine High School. Please email us at [emailprotected], subject line republish, with any questions or to let us know what stories youre picking up. Search the SSDI online for free now or subscribe for access to billions of other genealogy records. Although by Orthodox standards Susan wouldnt be considered Jewish because her mother wasnt Jewish, she was active in the Reform congregation during her youth. She also used the words toxic and judgmental. She said she doesnt know a single Jewish person in town, and one December, when she tried to buy Hanukkah candles at the grocery store, the clerks looked at her blankly. Learn more about managing a memorial . At one point in the book, when, during his high school years, he forgets Mothers Day, Klebold snaps with frustration and shoves him against the fridge. Both were seniors at the Littleton high school, apparently members of a shadowy clique known as the Trenchcoat Mafia. Rabbi Raymond Zwerin of Denvers Temple Sinai might have been speaking on behalf of many area Jews when he questioned the apparent media fascination with the issue. Marxhausen and Kirsten (and their colleagues) were engaged in spiritual triage, tending to hundreds of traumatized families. This memorial website was created in memory of Dylan B Klebold, 17, born on September11, 1981 and passed away on April20, 1999. AsTsarni cast about for a gravesite for his nephew, protesters thronged outside the funeral home where Tsarnaevs body was being held. They favored dark clothing, as did others in their loose and relatively tiny clique, the so-called Trenchcoat Mafia. The video of the memorial reveals a service heavy on Christianity, with church officials and references to Jesus Christ. Don Marxhausen believed that Dylan's parents deserved to hear the message of God's grace. So much of what was reported about Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold right after their April 20, 1999 attack on Columbine High School was wrong. Marxhausen probably speaks for both men when he says the toll Columbine has taken on his life is incalculable. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Marxhausen described them as "very good people, fine people" who have been shocked by the disclosures. You can even leave 'virtual flowers' on the memorials you visit to complete the online cemetery experience. Tearful mother of Columbine killer Dylan Klebold says she wanted to 'crawl inside her son's coffin' when she saw him dead - but says she is now in a place where she's found 'happiness' 22 years. During his sermon, George Kirsten proclaimed Cassie a martyr. Long-time friends arrived; one couple was from my church. Share Your Memories and Sympathies and Join the Bereaved! Kirsten was there for all of it. Please try again later. I thought, Dylan would not say anything like that. We are burying a dead body. We will remember him forever. Who wants to begin?. [14] On the day after the shooting, Klebold's mother remembered that shortly after Klebold's birth, she described what felt like a shadow had been cast over her, warning her that this child would bring her great sorrow. Tamerlan was killed as police pursued the suspects, and his uncle struggled to find a site that would accept his body. Another girl, sitting under another library table, had said she believed in God when prompted by Klebold, who let her live, according to Dave Cullen's new book "Columbine." More than 2,500 people flooded the sanctuary of West Bowles Community Church, where Cassie had been a member. This account has been disabled. On the Sunday between Dylans funeral and Cassies, 70,000 mourners gathered in a parking lot to listen to Franklin Graham, among others, proclaim the gospel. David mourns Absaloms death despite his bloody treachery,Marxhausen later told The Washington Post just as the Klebolds mourned Dylan. The governor of Colorado cited parenting as a causal factor in his first public appearance after the shootings. As she grew older, her ties to Judaism disintegrated. When there is a funeral for the perpetrator, it is private, James Fox, a mass shooting expert and professor of criminology at Northeastern University, told ABC News in 2012. The Washington Post Company. His father was very enraged that day, asking who would give his son a gun. Hashtag: sysoon74522655, memorial74522655, grave74522655, death, funeral, findagrave, buria , obituary, 471201f, n B Klebold, obits, ssn, family. Try again later. Dylan Klebold's Funeral News Coverage (New Discovery) - YouTube 0:00 / 5:06 Dylan Klebold's Funeral News Coverage (New Discovery) 66,118 views Oct 16, 2020 1.9K Dislike Share Save. His death certificate lists his final resting place as the only entirely Muslim cemetery in South Florida. Toms sister and brother-in-law were the only other family members. For the families of those who did the killing, burialis solitary, imbuedwith horror, shameand fear. ", The two couples, declining to speak publicly, have issued statements expressing sorrow for the school attack and asking to be left alone by reporters. Booths funeral was heldin the dead of night, the New York Times reported in 1911, and his grave was unmarked just a mound of dirt among the tombstones. DENVER Dylan Klebold, one of two suspects in last weeks bloodbath at Columbine High School, led a life of contradictions. Are you sure that you want to remove this flower? There was his mother Susans favorite story: One afternoon, Dylan, age 10, came running back from the creek with a pile of leeches. We look forward to your early visit. Tom is a geophysicist, Sue works with handicapped people. Friday. His hands were folded on his chest, and stuffed animals surrounded him. Columbine would open the floodgates of Kirsten's memory. This was emphasized both by the congregations former spiritual leader, Rabbi Judith Beiner, now of Overland Park, Kan., and its current president, Daniel Rothschild, in comments to the Intermountain Jewish News. Use Next and Previous buttons to navigate, or jump to a slide with the slide dots. Memorials are rich with content, including dates, photos and bios. This monster, she told her hairdresser, Dee Grant, tears coming down her cheeks, was not the son I knew.. There is a July 1999 article in a magazine called "The Director which is a publication for professionals in the mortuary biz. son's funeral April 27. Klebold and Eric Harris opened fire at their high school, killing 13 people and injuring a further 24 in the attack, with Sue dismissing her son's sullen moods for teen anguish while he quietly plotted the deaths. Skip Yassenoff also noted last week that Susan and Thomas Klebold had been members of Littletons St. Philip Lutheran Church. The elder Yassenoff and his son, Milton Yassenoff, were members of the Columbus Reform congregation, Temple Israel, the Dispatch reported. As I walked into the incredibly tension-filled room, I knew that the service I had prepared was not appropriate. Were happy to make this story available to republish for free, unless it originated with JTA, Haaretz or another publication (as indicated on the article) and as long as you follow our guidelines. They didnt do this, their son did. Funeral director Peter Stefan, who agreed to prepare Tsarnaevs burial, said he received angry calls and mail from people who thought it un-American to handle funeral services for a killer. If you notice a problem with the translation, please send a message to [emailprotected] and include a link to the page and details about the problem. Sysoon is a free resource for finding the final resting places of famous folks, friends and family members and contains listings for thousands of celebrity graves, making it the premier online destination for tombstone tourists. His father claimed his body but the burial site is unknown. Resend Activation Email, Please check the I'm not a robot checkbox, If you want to be a Photo Volunteer you must enter a ZIP Code or select your location on the map. Sue Klebold is the mother of Dylan Klebold, one of the two shooters who committed the Columbine High School massacre, murdering 12 students and a teacher. After Dylan's funeral, he described the killer's parents as "the loneliest people on the planet" to The Denver Post. Twitter @brittalokting. But I never thought it would hurt that much.. When your 17-year-old son has just perpetrated what was then the deadliest school shooting in U.S. history, killing 12 students and one teacher and wounding 24 others before he and classmate Eric. Dylan ended the shooting which saw 13 . "I wished for my son to kill himself, and he did," Susan Klebold said. You can customize the cemeteries you volunteer for by selecting or deselecting below. In the mortuary biz volunteer list never thought it would hurt that much told! 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