No means no and thats what she has violated a lot of timesacting like a 10 year oldseeking revenge and such etc.. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Suddenly a new supply I was thrown to the wolves. It was one date and done, but I occasionally every blue moon thought of her and how she was doing these days. He really does seem to be a mix of both. If youd like to read a free preview, which includes the first chapter and the pathological love relationship checklist, click on this link. Now I want to sell it because he left me with no income or support and I was thinking of moving out of state and its no longer mine. When things sounds to good to be true they usually are. When it comes to sexual things we were on the same page. Never tekst me called me nothing. I struggle with the fact that years later he tried to deny our relationship (his words and actions too). One of their manipulative tactics is to cut you down and then say they were just kidding. I think disordered women make far better/effective liars then men in general, so the pain can be even worse for a male victim. Nign mounths for you is very long time. Another part of the equation is the fact that, in my experience, every person I work with (and myself included) is or have been highly codependent. You wont hear anything else after that, the narcissist will leave you to think about it for a couple of weeks, then call you back demanding that you remain friends. The emotionally and financially damage is done and cannot be corrected, as one cannot travel back in time. Sort of creepy really. Im new to the revelation of having been with not one but two narcissists. This one was so seductive, so manipulative, actually seemed very genuine at times, and was so extremely attractive to look at. When they lose said control, this illusion is shattered. Because he knows i hate fighting and wants to solve everything. I was onto her game quicker than most, I believe, and called her out for her BS. It feels so good finally found a site where i have contact with people that understand me. Reading your situation makes me feel not so alone after all. Theyre looking to see how easy it is to reach out, how likely it is that person would respond if they did reach out, and the quality of narcissistic supply they would get based on the level of effort theyd have to put in. I see that he runs with other narcs, and victims like me. ************ He knows its a matter of time that i will be on my feet again. It hurt me so bad through out his torture i ws suicidle depressed . When we finally talked I explained to him the reasons I couldnt talk to him and he actually understood although he initially fought the NPD diagnosis. Yet friends are telling me they have never seen him happier. I read somewhere if they agreed to help, it would take over 10 years to truly fix, but because they think they are God or better than everyone else, they dont continue the sessions and the cycle continues. So much. I need and love my music, my family (were not even going to get into their screwiness) I need and love them also, my friends share the same sentiment. And now when she is in distress what does she expect me to do? I have been practicing the no contact for almost a year, very hard! When I was told ten years ago I had brain tumor over the phone I was on my way to therapy. Finally it is on record. This is the point I look back on and realise I was so in love with her the rational part oif my brain stopped working. They usually wear the mask 24/7 with new supply, which is very annoying to them. Almost three weeks still not heard from him. There you can look up the BPD, both psycho and non, and why the BPD psychopathy is the worst. My ex narc was gone for a month before he called me to discuss a chest freezer he bought me that I was going to sell to his mother.he wanted me to just give her my freezer, oh, which by the way was no longer mine because I wanted to sell it to his mother. [] committed?) but unlike nightmares this one you cant wake from !!.. If you could read French and see his initial e-mails you might be able to understand how conflicted I am by all of this Let them live their small lives while you carry on with complete indifference. I am being troubled by the narcissist in this exact way I was very surprised to find a message of his in my email system from 01/01/15 and today a week later a text from his number repeating his wish to make a fresh start, Discussing this with some trusted others one of whom commented that this is a good thing, that I should accept this olive branch then they go one to admonish me for saying something along the lines of not in a million years placing me in the wrong and on the defencive you really cant win with these people can you. Im sorry, and I do hope you forgive me for the abrupt end and all pain that you have experienced as a result of my actions. I never thought a male so complicated could exist. Its difficult to comprehend that the person I was with was an imposter. Did the narcissist ever tell you about exes in their past that they wanted nothing to do with? Thank you. And there is a scared inmature little person who is scared of live and everything in it. He would borrow my car and put hundreds of miles on it. Then I finally said ok after he cried about how could you cut me off completely when we meant so much to each other Heres the problem. This relationship pattern I described above is known as the idealize-devalue-discard-hoover cycle. I loathe and love him simultaneously. Id never met her friends For example, he could be a Narcissist and Borderline, too (or vice versa). just to see how later she would emotionally and physically abuse me and turning everything on me. I had to get his food on a plate, if I didnt he wasnt happy. While they have moved on to someone new, they may reach out to see how receptive you are if they see something that reminds them of you. Then again, she knows that I obsess about these things. But everywhere i go there is something thats remainds me of or laughter, our same thinking and taste of everything. It was insanely deep how she made others perceive me. So I felt your words and enjoyed reading you this morning. Anyway, I decided that when he came the next day, I was going to look the best hes ever seen me so I put on heels, stockings, skirt, low cut blouse, make up, fingernails done, White Diamonds perfume, hair loose and looking good. If you Google Dr. George K. Simon, youll get plenty of useful information. It was a crazy roller coaster. This was to much for me and I half heartedly ended things. Thank you for stopping by and for sharing your experience. I know that I wanted the school year to end but being apart from you is not what I had in mind. This website was how do you say it? Before that a 8 year normal husband. Your ex-partner may not even know. A mail with subject `STOP FOR EVER WITH CONTACT!. 3 weeks ago when he turned away from me an pushed me away after I tried to kiss him I realized how sick and tired of the lies, the money, his absence, he never carried about me just used me for sex and money that it was really at the end I couldnt take anymore. : ). So from this point onvten years ago til now had has been Im control. Could the police involvement push him over the edge? The problems between us also caused him to pull away from my daughter who had only known him since her birth, after our marriage and we all came to live together their relationship crumbled as well, come the first birth of our 2 daughters together their relationship had completely dissolved. Sad to hear so many people get dammaged from such sick people. Margo. However, if they dont want to see him, I wouldnt go out on a limb for him unless there is some sort of court order in place. I did not even hound her about it, and actually was pretty cool about the whole thing. Add his sexual confusion to the mix and you have a no win situation on ur hands. And i really believe that he meant it at the moment he said that. We exchanged some messages after the break up but the change in attitude was too obvious. We dont use the Narc word but let her know that she is blameless and that it is ALL him. I think in some weird way I keep contact to somehow get to the bottom of it. He cheated on me with multiple people during my pregnancy and after I had my child. This is how they work. The high you get with them is fantastic. Certainly dont miss the drama. There needs to be repercussions. You can put a stop to that by ceasing engagement. Al those weekends he never answerd my tons of textings never. Narcs cant admit real hurtespecially when they know you are finally serious about dumping them. when narcissist has canceririna emelyanova pasternak 26th February 2023 / in coastal carolina football camp 2022 / by / in coastal carolina football camp 2022 / by Only, now we both know the truth. Also, watch his videos (sorry cannot provide the links, but youll find them). I even doubted myself and took a test to see if, I in fact, was the Narcissisttypical partner turned victim. He told me that I should message her. I never did nothing but fallin love with a man who lied to me . Eden I hope you heal and acceptance that it was never about you will help. Natural Remedies for Bipolar or Borderline Personality Disorder. Then he hated me and even hit me twice and choked me once. If you are truly the owner of this image, you should already be aware of it being hosted on their platform. Yes, not all of them are equally sadistic, but only garden Narc is a neurotic type (neurotic means people, who can empathise). After that, in a typical narcissistic style, the conversation will switch to youll never find anyone to love you as much as they did because youre too flawed. If they can see mum and dad as friend they will be much better off for it. Yet, at least both parties generally have an agreed-upon narrative about what happened. Most of his are either a request unrelated to parenting (which I ignore) or replies to me with another question [is that all you wanted?, are you saying that ()?] when I expected a yes or no and he hates that I dont reply. Hell find someone else once he gets bored like they always do. Due to this, he or she has a load of vile bile stewing in their stomach cavity at all times, and they need someone to project their negative emotions onto. He will throw everything at you to get his "supply" back. Im so confused. If he comes to my door, Im not answering. The torment they endure from narcassism couples with the strength of a very patriarchal religion, you have no idea! He deserves a happy, whole mom who can take care of him. He also used someone elses phone number, which I looked up on googlemaps to see the location cause I dont answer numbers I dont recognize. In all you wrote what stood out for me is your son. Deep down, theyre terribly insecure and the bravado they exhibit is nothing but a mask to cover up how they really feel. Often my thoughts and actions at home and work do not make sense now; and some are illegal, unethical, and stupid. He will never make a good partner with anyone and is destined to go through life never knowing real happiness. Im convinced. Because in most cases, they will never admit they have a problem. We share a dog together and she makes me feel guilty when I dont want her to come around to see the dog because she doesnt take care of it full-time. Your ex is hurt by you. How to make a Narcissist Obsessed With You? He sold it. Start your healing work. We are in the same situation!! Your ex is probably screwing someone else, since he cant have sex with the new one. Theyll seek out your biggest weakness, insecurity, or theyll touch on something they know will really hurt you, and theyll go all out with it. I just wish it was easier for me to understand her intentions. He became a drug using front-man/bartender /food server who contacted me 25ish years after graduating high school and the nostalgic memories of our youth attracted me towards him when we talked about how cute we were in 7th grade holding hands and kissing by the school bus. There are two scenarios in which a narcissist wants their ex back. Sumhow he came driving by my new apartment as I was getting out of my pickup after work. Third, they like having more than one source of supply because when they get bored with one, theyll just start a fight and then go off with the other for a while. I said nope, I will not give you that satisfaction. But he is, I think, a covered narcissist. Thus resulting in devaluation of myself and allowing her to walk over me. Then later that day I was heading home from the beach with my bike. We maxed out my credit. or wherever he was getting his rocks offthat i couldnt tell youwell, admittedlyi flew into a rage and saw redthat night as he slept, i decidedly, without words, wanted to express to him my new found discovery of his hidden true colors by taking a large Vaseline Jar to his yummy treasures hed been enjoyingbc he certainly wasnt enjoying mei put on a glove and swabbed it with a huge goop of the greasy mixture and smeared it all over the inside of this gym bagYou might be saying to yourself, that was a little high-schoolish and immature and irresponsible, well maybe but I suppose i had reached a point of now return and this was my breaking point after years of abusebut in hindsight, he couldve killed me for pulling a stunt like thatI will never forget the 5am reaction while i lay motionless and breathless in my bedi heard him rise, get ready for his ritualistic morning routine for getting to the gym, the sound of movement became less vague, more pronouncedthen under-your-breath slurs shes a bitchheavy foot-steps, then a crash thru my locked bedroom doorgrabbed me out of my bed and thru me against the walltook both hands and smashed everything on my bureau mirrored vanityglass everywherethen looked me straight in the eye with his hands tightened around my neck and announces.your outta hereheavy abuse followed this incident which was planned and premeditated in getting me evicted from my home we shared even so far as to accuse my mental state, which i have to admit was affected by this mans abuse by pushing me past my limits which is what would happen to any sane person at the hands of a NARC like thisnot long after this occurred he set me up and had police arrest me under the guise i was a harm to myself and my child which he used as leverage and weaponry to execute his planhow sick someone could do this to another human being is beyond me while never being able to admit it is himself that is the damaging element in this volatile relationship, all along! 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